The Lady With the Pink Hat
About a week ago some controversy was spurred over a trend that is growing across the country, that trend being the No Children Allowed Restaurant. More and more, restaurant owners are responding to the complaints of clientele who would prefer to eat their meals in peace, rather than have it ruined by some bratty kid whose parents are entirely hands-off on the discipline. On the surface, this seems vaguely reminiscent of the old “one bad apple ruins the entire bushel;” although, to be fair, those without children at the dinner table have just as much a right to eat in peace as those with them have to let their kids run the show.
Some varied responses have been made to this. Some have agreed, even those with kids, because they recognize the fact that parents these days just don’t believe their child should be disciplined (or, possibly that their child can do no wrong). Some have disagreed on the basis that, while they recognize children can be completely out of control, it seems inherently wrong to refuse service to people just on the basis of the fact that they happen to be in a particular group of people (dare I call them: the birthers).
We’ve talked about this before, the notion of people acting as though they are the only people on the planet, and so everyone else should cow-tow to their desires. And, in fact, it seems to be happening more that people in society feel a sense of being entitled to do whatever they want, even if it means that they and their children are infringing upon the rights (and even safety of others).
Today I was at the library with my father, who happens to be a candidate for full hip replacement surgery. Nearing his seventies, his bones have become so brittle that even the slightest fall could result in a fracture of his hips. He even has a handicapped placard for his car. While at the library, a child was running around and screaming while his mother was nowhere to be found. Inevitably, the child ran into my father, nearly knocking him over. My father looked down at the little boy and said “watch where your going, where is your mother?” and the kid ran off without another word. Five minutes later, though, this lady in a pink hat stalked up to us and started yelling at my dad – in the middle of the library – for daring to respond to her son, who can clearly do no wrong. After calming the situation down (although I did say that she should learn to be a parent as she walked away), she went off with her bratty toddler and we went about our business.
Despite the fact that the situation was calmed down, though, and the kid and his mother eventually got kicked out of the library because the little terrorist was ripping books off the shelf and screaming, this raises again the issue of the No Child Restaurant. Had my father (or any other older person that spends a fair amount of their time at the library) been knocked over, he very likely would have broken a bone at the hands of a little boy that was allowed to run all over the place. And had my father broken a bone, the only people that would have been liable for it in the end would have been the library. Worse than him running all over the place, though, was the lady in the pink hat: his mother. Without knowing the situation or the health or the beliefs of other people, that woman has taken the position that so many other parents today take, which is that the safety and happiness of others is of no matter as long as they can do whatever they want. That poor, little boy is on a surefire course for destruction later on in life and his mother has done nothing but teach him that he can be a monster, and to raise his voice if anyone questions that. One day, that little monster will hurt someone in a place other than the library, where the only one liable is him; and then they will all have to pay the price of a mother that simply doesn’t want to deal with an unruly child.
When considering how to act in any public place, it seems we need to remind ourselves that public means that other people will be there, with entirely different situations than ours. Not everyone thinks a screaming and destructive kid is the cutest thing next to teddy bears. And sometimes, it can even be dangerous. To those that still don’t understand why some restaurants have chosen to have a policy that no children be allowed, consider the actions of the lady with the pink hat.